It has been one of those weeks where everyone has been experiencing the same issue.
Is my work stress going to ruin my IVF chances?
Ok, so in an ideal world we would all be meditating on lily pads and being brought organic, wholesome foods during the preparation for IVF. But here’s the thing…..life continues to go on around us and yes, most of us have a certain degree of stress within our daily life. We therefore just need to find ways to accommodate these two big things in our lives that are going on. If you can do anything to make life easier within work then by all means go for it, but if you have done all you can do and are still finding it all a bit of a struggle then here are some tips.
Think of it like two separate pots, one energy bank for work and one for IVF and baby. Allow your baby stuff to be protected, sacred. Nothing will get to it, nothing can penetrate it. Just as your uterus is a safe calm haven to your baby regardless of the fights and struggles going on outside, so your preparation for treatment is protected too.
There is nothing that is stronger than your maternal instinct, your drive to have your baby.
No amount of stress can ever make that go away.
As soon as your embryo is inside you I know that your heart’s intentions will be drawn to nurture it. Trust.
Here’s a list of things you can do which can help you manage your IVF build up and work:
- If you can arrange time off after egg collection great – if not don’t worry. You will never not do the best that you can.
- Every night when you get in bed and get ready to fall asleep, put your hand on your tummy. Check in. Breathe through your hands and send as much warmth and love as you can. Imagine the path to the womb opening with the breath. Think how lovely it will feel to have the chance to have a baby in there. Day dream.
- Try getting up five or ten minutes earlier than usual to do a meditation, one of my CDs or simply do a little ritual. For example, light a candle, set the intention that your day will flow and that you will be protected from any stressful work things. Sit quietly, do several deep breaths, imagining the light from the sky coming in and lighting you up.
- Even when you’re sat at traffic lights give your tummy a little tap – “not long now!”
- Make sure you continue to eat well, even if your week is hectic, make time on Sunday evening to make a batch of soup, and maybe something like a quinoa salad batch to have for lunches through the week. Remember your fertility friendly foods – leafy green veg, fish, chicken, fruit, gluten free stuff.
Remember, any situation is powerless without your reaction to it. Stress is as stressful as you say it can be. It is basically a state of mind, and that IS something you can shift. I know that makes it sound really easy just to ‘decide’ but there are certain active choices you can make to yourself that will impact on your well being. Think about someone calm and wise that you know and admire and imagine how they might deal with situations you find yourself stressed by. Think about what your reaction is doing to aid a situation.
Just a silly example but if I wake up late I am all hectic and rushing about, aware of the adrenalin pumping around my body. My partner on the other hand just accepts the situation has occurred. He calmly sends any texts he needs to and then methodically gets dressed and drives off to work. He hasn’t wasted any time, he has done everything quickly and efficiently as he knows that feeling worried won’t actually help. I on the other hand have the misfortune of feeling that anxiety and rushing so I end up taking longer (because I ladder my tights and drop stuff…). So now, if something happens like that I think, how would Joe react and try to do the same thing. It works a treat!
Here are some affirmations to help release you from any doubt that you aren’t ‘doing enough’:
- I recognize that things in my environment are stressful but my IVF preparation is sacred and protected from it
- When I am at the clinic I am 100% focused on my IVF and that is when it counts
- I have enough energy and brain power to continue my work whilst still keeping that rich savings account for my baby stuff.
- When I put my hand on my tummy and think about my IVF I feel excited and happy. I already feel protective and loving towards the eggs that are going to become embryos. Love is the strongest, most powerful emotion. It conquers fear and stress. There is no doubt that the love I already have for the baby that could be coming is stronger than anything else I experience.
Last of all, just remember, every little thing you do will be adding to your chances of your IVF working. Just focus on the positive things you are doing and know that you are a completely different person at work, in a different energy field. Once you leave you can assume your other maternal, calm persona.
The most important days to reduce your stress are –
Egg collection day until your embryos are 10 days old (egg collection day is day 0).
Big love x