Sex, ovulation and keepings things juicy.
How do you maintain an interesting sex life when you are trying to conceive?
We all know the feeling of trying to make “ovulation” sex exciting but feeling like it’s little more than a chore than needs to be done today. In the first couple of months when you have decided to ‘try’ it can be wildly exciting and feel very romantic but how do you perk things up when it’s later down the line?
Most women will say that they always have it in the back of their head, “oooh that could potentially have got me pregnant” and then find after ovulation that their sex drive dwindles in a “what is the point” kind of way. Not ideal to maintain fun and happiness in your relationship I am sure you will agree!
There is a theory that women require 48 hours of foreplay to want sex. Now this simply means a woman needs her man to be consistently lovely to her for 48 hours and then she will be very drawn to him. It really does work! So in essence you need to readdress your relationship and bring it to the top of the priority list. Start ‘courting’, put notes in his lunch box, text him during the day about something other than remembering to bring milk home. Welcome him when he gets home – and that means getting up and making eye contact and giving him your full attention. Go out to dinner, take a holiday, just enjoy each other again.
My sister made me laugh when she said that after having children, sex is like a party. You can’t be assed to go but you have a good time when you get there! This is also true of sex when you are trying to conceive. Try to make a special effort, even if you have to fake interest to begin with to make a point of having a special evening together at a point in your cycle when you can’t possibly get pregnant. You will at some point give in to the concept of just enjoying the evening and actually because you know it is after ovulation you will have to let go of that nagging voice wondering if this will get you pregnant.
Even if you are getting frustrated trying and it has been a long wait don’t lose sight of what you have. This still remains a special time with you being the unit you are right now. Don’t focus on the lack of something, keep remembering it is a goal you are welcoming into your future. Over 90% of women can be made pregnant. It will happen somehow! Don’t forget to enjoy today.