As you know I am a fan of Western Medicine but I don’t think it covers everything all by itself. When it comes to conception, fertility doctors and scientists want to come up with a system that in black and white can wholly allow them to make sense of a phenomenon that is SO big it can’t possibly fit that neatly into a box.
I have heard statistics that make me so cross, because they are plant seeders. They sit in a woman’s head and create panic and heart break completely unnecessarily. Many of my ladies who come to me after they have been trying more than two years have been told this:
“If a couple try naturally for two years they then have a less than 5% chance of ever conceiving naturally.”
In my opinion, many of these couples have issues that don’t come under the Western medicine detection radar and therefore, the problem remains undiagnosed. If however they are able to make the appropriate changes (and believe me I see this all day every day) then of course their chances will be higher than 5%. In fact, they become normal.
What I want you to remember is that modern medicine leaves many stones unturned when it comes to diagnosing fertility issues. This means that they may recommend a course of action (such as IVF) that isn’t necessarily the right tick for the box but it is the only thing left they can offer you. If it isn’t the right tick for the box you can risk years of unsuccessful and unnecessary fertility treatment. I love to help couples maximise their chances, but what I hate doing is watching couples go through the wrong hoops.
I have watched women conceive healthy babies when they are 43. I have seen women conceive with an AMH of 0.2 (virtually no egg reserve). I have seen embryos that apparently “aren’t worth putting back” turn into healthy children. I have watched women conceive when they have been told they have a 2% chance, or even no chance.
I don’t think you can always judge IVF statistics because couples are all SO different and are embarking on things with different issues and mindsets. In my opinion there are many low IVF statistics simply because couples are either;
- They shouldn’t be having IVF because it isn’t the answer for them
- There is something they need to fix first before the IVF can work
- They are so broken from trying and failing and being told such horrific statistics they feel they have failed before they even begin.
We all have to believe in ourselves. We all have to know that we are able to create our own statistical chances and our own destinies. We can boost our chances, make our own luck and most of all we are able to find out the unique ingredients we need to make pregnancy happen and be successful.
Never let the numbers get you down, just know that the answer to your situation is out there. As I always say, it might not always look the way you think it will but there will be a way for you to find what will make you happy and at peace.