My work has proven to me over and over again that we always end up with the right children, that they choose us and we choose them. They have things both to teach and to learn.
It has been my work with women who have suffered loss that has really helped me make some sense of this. Sometimes, there are souls who are facing big stuff in coming back, and it takes a lot for them both in courage and in energy. These souls need a gentle path to find their way here. They sometimes need what I refer to as a spiritual earth mother. A beautiful, peaceful unconditional channel of pure love to come and experience being a physical being once again. They come, they take what they need, and then they head home again, Just for now.
They need very special women who are willing on a soul level to be that passage for them, just in that moment. For of course we know that physically experiencing loss is devastating, so if this has been you, please know that it has never been something you could have changed, nothing you did wrong. In fact, your body honoured its promise to that soul and let them do what they needed to do.
The thing is too, that we would never ever put our hands up to do more than we could cope with. You can only be a spiritual earth mother so many times before you would break yourself, and there comes a point where you will have said ‘enough’. Now I want to have the physical experience of motherhood, here right now in this lifetime.
Trust your soul. Trust that it will never have made it so you are left with nothing (even though sometimes it can really feel that way).
We also have soul agreements with our children who are going to help us grow exponentially. We all have lessons and challenges during our lifetimes, and some will really want to accelerate this. Awesome, strong, evolved and incredible women put their hands up in the soul-to-body queue and say “I’m up for really shifting. I’m up for making this absolutely bloody incredible. I want exquisite. I want to really get it.”
What you’re saying when you make that soul decision is:
I want to finally feel the alignment between my spirit and my body. I want to realise that I am more than this physical body. I want to realise that I have creativity, gratitude, intuition, gut feelings, instinct and an inner guidance system that will always lead me to incredible things if only I can trust it.
People who are wildly successful in terms of being happy are this way because they trust their inner guidance they also honour their spirit by realising they are not here to suffer, they are here to have fun. They are here to realise that spiritual essence, guides, angels and all of that is all very lovely but really they haven’t ‘got it all’ because as physical beings we can touch, taste, smell, and really experience things. When we align with our spirit and our bodies that is when we can have the most exquisite time.
When I say spirit – I don’t mean you have to carry crystals and meditate all day (well unless you love that of course!) I mean being connected to what makes you feel great, what soothes you, lifts you and means something to you. When we get in touch with our true spirit it might be in reading a book, gardening, making amazing tea, meeting a friend. It’s doing what you do that makes you feel lit up and well. Glad to be here and glad to experience things.
These women – and yes I am talking about you have signed up for this level of awesome.
How can they get it though? They might stand in the soul-to-body queue and insist they are ready, insist they want to head back to earth and start spreading love and having fun. Can you imagine that being you? (I can imagine myself doing it – hands up jumping saying pick meeee pick meeeee, I can DO this!!)
How do these realisations come though?
Don’t we all sometimes need a little push?
What is your unborn child pushing you to do?
What is fighting for them making you do / realise / understand?
Don’t get me wrong. I know there are days when you throw your hands up and say WTF????!!!! What MORE do I need to do? WHY can’t I just FUCKING WELL HAVE WHAT EVERYONE ELSE HAS?!!
I hate to break it to you my lovely but
You are not like everyone else.
You are way way up there. You are lining yourself up for divine things and if you really feel confused and like you just can’t think what else is needing to happen then search carefully in your language for any clues.
Sometimes a woman who has done it all and is fearless and ready will then say – “well if it happens it happens….”
There you go, right there. Don’t repeat that soul pattern. Don’t just be patient. Say it’s my turn. I want it now. I am ready to put myself first now. I am important now.
What else might you say that shows up a clue?
“I feel like I should be doing something else but I am not sure what.”
Are you pushing too hard? Are you fighting against the current? are you looking too hard? In this case go very general. Trust that your path will find you, but that you need to listen to instinct first. Do anything that neutralises you, anything that makes the frustration ease and be replaced with ease or calm or fun. Play with your cat, watch silly videos. Go and have a nap, listen inside to what you feel like doing and just get off topic for a minute. Then you will have the inspired thought which will lead you to the right action.
See what I mean?
Complicated stuff but I can promise it’s all true.
I was once running a workshop and I had all the ladies lying down doing a connection meditation. Now when I am doing my crazy cool reading/ listening / energy / spirit thing (no idea what to call it!), I ‘hear’ I don’t ‘see’. I sometimes translate the thoughts into image ideas but I am not an eyes open ‘see’ person when it comes to energy. However, on this occasion I opened my eyes during this meditation and saw for the first time actual lines of energy coming into these women. All different colours and all in different places. Two of the women had two lines going into them (both have subsequently had twins). I could also sense a word or phrase with each lady. With one of the twin ladies it was simply ‘patience’. So in her case yes she did have to wait a little bit for her boys to be ready to come, but she kept trying until they came. I guess she ‘knew’ she had to.
Another two ladies had the sense of ‘this is about you’ coming from them. I knew each lady had a spiritual journey to go on, one of self discovery and enlightenment but that their paths would lead to their children.
It’s not always all super spiritual but often it is an element. Yeah sure, sometimes I can look at a client and say – hmmmm yeah you need to take some magnesium and do fertility massage then you’ll be fine. But what ever it is, just know that if you have the calling to be a parent, it’s because you signed up for it and therefore the path to it will be possible.