A Haven for your Fertility
As National Fertility Awareness Week is fast approaching, 2nd – 8th November, it has made me think a lot about what I wanted and needed someone to tell me when I was feeling lost and overwhelmed with fertility issues that just wouldn’t seem to come right.
I know I needed, more than anything, someone to tell me that it was going to be alright. That if it didn’t feel alright, then it wasn’t the end.
I know I needed someone to say, ‘It’s ok’. This road has been traveled many times before by amazing people and even though your story is unique and different to everyone else, we have learned from each person that has gone before you, and pulled all of that wisdom and learning together, ready and waiting to guide you.’
I know I needed someone to say ‘We’ve got you’, we understand, you’re not going crazy and you’re not alone. We’re there to hold your hand, find a way through this puzzle, and we’ll still be there on the other side of it all.’
I know I needed someone to say, ‘I know it hurts like mad, but that deep longing to be a mum or a parent, that’s what you need to keep you going until you arrive wherever it is you need to be.’
I know I needed to hear someone say ‘It’s ok to want to understand what’s not working and why it’s an issue for you, and we’ll help you to figure it out’, rather than just wanting to jump in the deep-end and over-ride the issues.
I know I needed someone to help me de-code the signals my body was sending me through my cycles, the failed IVF treatments and the miscarriages. To help me find the answers to the millions of questions in my head, and to lay the healthy foundations I needed.
I know I needed someone to trust when trusting myself or my body felt like the hardest thing to do, and to help me find my way back to trusting myself. To tell me what normal looks like, to reassure me or guide me when it was time to move to the next step.
I know I needed someone that could talk me through my options, and help me to understand that there are so many ways of becoming a family – that I didn’t need to heap the pressure on one way only.
I know I needed someone to tell me that I was safe, that I could trust myself to know what ‘felt’ right, when to stop and when to carry on or change direction, what helped or what was better to leave alone. That I could still trust my instincts and listen to them, that I didn’t need to hand over that authority to someone else.
I know I needed someone to tell me how much of the strain is soaked up by relationships when you try to ‘go it alone’, and just how much a difference it can make to have someone else’s support holding you both up. I know I needed someone to tell me (over and over) that this isn’t a luxury, it is something that is needed and deserved.
I know I needed someone to tell me that I wasn’t failing and that I had nothing to be ashamed about; That I wasn’t doing anything ‘wrong’, I wasn’t to blame and that I wasn’t broken either. I was just finding my way to healthy, and to the family that was right for me. That our families find us in exactly the right way at exactly the right time, even if it doesn’t make sense to us until that moment.
I know I needed someone to tell me that for all the pain and heartache I would go through, it would make me the person I am today – and that I would be proud to be her.
I know, as this important awareness week rolls around, that I want to tell you all of these things too.
- That you’re not alone.
- That you don’t need to feel that you are stumbling in the dark.
- That it is possible to find the practical and emotional answers you are looking for.
- That all of this information is available and ready for you.
Somehow, Lucy has poured all of it in to one place and literally created a haven for your fertility.
It pulls all of this information together, so that you don’t have to trawl through the millions of bits of information available to find what might be right for you. It guides you step-by-step through the information you need and helps you to figure out the clues that your body is sending you, turning over every stone to help you to know if there is something that you should be thinking about or doing first, or how to prepare yourself in the best possible way to make your plan successful.