Is it me (well, us as I know Cath agrees with me on this!) or is it all a bit weird right now?
A lot of my friends, clients and certainly me are finding that things have never felt more uncertain. That everything could go so many different ways and you almost feel powerless to control it.
There are a lot of people out there trying to follow the tick list of life. Some are managing it very easily, although may not be truly happy. Whilst others are just finding themselves constantly forced to go off piste.
The trouble is that those of us having to cope with crippling decisions and literally gambling with our own happiness are surrounded by the opinions of those still cracking on with the tick list.
They can make you feel foolish, irresponsible, ridiculous, crazy, a failure and my personal favourite ‘obsessed’.
I need to tell you this:
You are not any of those things. Nobody knows you like you know yourself, and nobody else will live with your heart, soul and needs like you will. Either now or in the future. We can only any of us deal with what is right in front of us, and the battle between logical information and what is tugging at your heart strings.
Your courage will scare people.
Your strength will push people’s buttons.
Your resilience will make others feels insecure.
All of those things don’t result in them looking inward. No no no. They will express all of that in your direction and question your actions, motives and decisions.
But they are not you. They don’t have your wisdom or the same level of courage. We all have different values, boundaries and fears, and no set will match someone else’s. So if I can tell you one thing this week it is this:
Do what you need to do.
Even if it sounds crazy.
Don’t act on anything if it doesn’t feel right (and this goes for don’t NOT do something because someone else made you think it was foolish either).
You are always on the right path. Even if you are currently on rather a long detour!
Lucy & Cath
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