When your hopes for making your family haven’t exactly gone according to plan this year…
Is anyone else feeling it?
It’s such a lovely time of year in so many ways, isn’t it, but OH the head-fuckery it can bring with it!
It’s the double whammy…the end of the year looming, as well as all the happy families & babes in cute outfits stuff…that makes it so difficult when your dreams for the year haven’t gone quite to plan.
I had hoped to be able to open the door for the little one that I’ve been able to feel calling me for so many years. Earlier in the year we decided to do that all important “one last” IVF cycle but it was called off at the last second when a scan revealed a complication.
I can feel all those heavy thoughts and feelings jostling around of…’does that mean I have to say goodbye to all those hopes and dreams?’
I know for so many of the ladies I’ve spoken to this month, hope takes the biggest hit of all at this time of year, and sometimes it feels like it might just be safer not to hope at all.
Especially when, as Mara Glatzel says, it feels like ‘there is zero proof that it’s possible for you to have what you want and a metric shit ton of evidence to the contrary.’
…people, doctors or clinics saying it’s too much to want this…odds too stacked against you…or people just not understanding that you’re grieving, silently and invisibly, for something and someone that means everything to you.
So, what to do?
We have come to the conclusion that a BLOODY GOOD PLAN is the place to start to put back in a little Christmas ease.
Something that gives you your sense of control back, repairs the hope, and lets you park things for a few days, soak up the best bits of Christmas that you can, and take the best care of yourself, all the while knowing you have the next steps in hand.
A little Christmas Catching Rainbows Care Plan
(for anyone needing that extra boost)
If you’re mostly feeling ok but need a few comforting words for those tender places, to wrap you up and take care of you a little…this is for you.
A blog that Lucy wrote a few years ago, words of comfort for your soul.
Facing another Christmas without a baby
If you’re feeling like your body & cycle are giving you a ton of clues about what it is that you need, but it’s like reading another language entirely, there is a way to decipher it, I promise…this is for you.
A little detective work & fertility plan
One : one session (in person or via Skype), personal plan, email support
The Fix Your Fertility Haven
Lucy and I love this stuff. Whether it’s one to one sessions or following the big, beautiful questionnaire in the Fix Your Fertility Haven to work through it all gently by yourself, de-coding all the clues for you and giving you a full FERTILITY PLAN with all the vitamins, herbs, diet, treatments and resources that we know will point you in the right direction is where it’s at. Restores confidence and puts you back in the drivers seat, minus all the overwhelm.
(A little bit ‘Magnum PI’ for anyone that’s as old as me and remembers him, if not, you have to imagine Lucy and I as private investigators with big, fat moustaches!)
* PS. Just in case you’re wondering…this can help even if you feel that your cycle is pretty textbook. We’ve seen some hidden answers revealed when a little detective work dives deeper than the doctors and clinics tend to look.
If you’re thinking about or planning a treatment cycle, it doesn’t matter whether it’s IVF, ICSI or IUI, in a week or 3 months time, you just need to know that you have done everything you can to give it THE best chance of success, don’t you? This for you.
One to one session (in person or Skype)
The IVF Preparation Kit
TREATMENT CYCLE PLANS bring in the peace and confidence of knowing that you have all the foundations in place to optimise every single stage of the process.
SO many times ladies have issues with their treatment cycles which are just not addressed or investigated by the clinics. Instead they’re encouraged to just retry the same approach. By going through everything with you and helping you to understand what needs to be addressed or tweaked, we can empower you with the knowledge and language you need to go in and ask for the exact recipe that is right for you.
If you know that you can’t keep going on as you are, and you want YOU and your relationships, and a little calm to bob back up to the surface….This is for you.
One : One Session & Email Support,
The Finding Calm Kit,
Reiki / holistic treatment session
Oh, the tracks! They truly work wonders, and all our HEAD AND HEART support, whether it’s one : one sessions or our Kits, they come complete with all the ones you need to help you grieve, de-stress, find your comfort and soothe those parts of our souls that need some serious loving care. Everything you need right now to…
Help you get through Xmas / the two week wait / the hard times
Help you sleep
Help you re-gather and build your strength, your intuition and your dreams
Help you repair your hope and confidence
Help to clearly picture your way ahead and find exactly the right map for you.
If you feel like you JUST DON’T KNOW, you’re just not sure what you need, or what you ‘should’ be doing? This is for you.
You’re at a cross roads and sometimes you need a little breathing space to explore, discuss, ask the questions that google can’t answer, and suss things out gently without being judged or having to commit hook line and sinker to one path yet, before your plan can emerge. Time to explore options including adoption; surrogacy; treatment options; which clinic is best for you; donor treatments; and embryo adoption among others.
Email support and one : one sessions are the best for this (in person & Skype)
Hopefully somewhere in there, there’s an idea or a plan that might just spark a little ‘yes’ in you, and bring a little ease, hope and comfort back in, and you get to make it look however you want it to, however is right for you.
With all our love and very warmest wishes,
Cath & Lucy x x x