Dear Lovely Ladies,
This is a little love note from our hearts to yours to say a few of the things that we feel so strongly…
That you are amazing
That we truly see how much love, care, dedication and courage you pour in to reaching the babies that you know are meant to be with you.
EVERY. SINGLE. DAY
It just feels so important to acknowledge all the things that tend to go unspoken or so unnoticed in the world around us…
Like how much energy and strength and sheer bravery it takes to keep going, when you’ve been knocked down so many times that there’s no way to keep moving without fear as your constant companion.
Like how much resilience it takes to hold yourself together through the traumas that are too frequently part of this journey.
Like how much effort it takes to work through the deep healing that we’re so often called to go through on these journeys, and how much patience it takes to try to juggle that on the side of ‘normal’ life.
And how much commitment it takes to allow your heart to be cracked open over and over again, and just try to stay afloat with it all sometimes.
It’s impossible to do that without it feeling every bit like fighting, battling and warrior-ing to beat this thing called infertility, isn’t it, but it’s coming from the most incredible LOVE.
Love for these children that we haven’t even met yet, and yet is so strong that we’d move heaven and earth for them.
And more and more it seems it seems to be shifting us away from that ‘old’ way of doing that involves pushing harder and depriving ourselves even more, and making it all about these two words instead…
Kindness & Nurture
Two words that honestly don’t seem to have that much to do with physical fertility on the surface and yet seem to do more to transform it than any others I can think of.
It feels like we are creating a new script, one that’s much more in tune with letting go of forcing ourselves to do more and listening to what we need instead, whatever that happens to be for us.
More moving away from holding ourselves to blame for ‘failing, falling, stumbling, not doing enough or doing it right’…and turning it in to loving ourselves through this instead.
Taking care of ourselves, in ways that feel good, not just the stuff that someone’s says is good for your fertility, but because how we feel matters too.
Saying a gentle ‘NO’ when something doesn’t feel right, instead of putting ourselves through it anyway, because it’s what someone else expects or thinks should happen.
Finding ways to trust ourselves and be in our own bodies again.
Finding ways to bring a little bit of us back in to our lives.
And letting that be part of the journey, not having to wait until there is a baby in our arms to be able to seek out all these little bits of love and kindness and nurture.
And that feels like something very worth celebrating today with a whole ridiculously massive dollop of love.
So from us to you, with a whole lot of wild love